Why Is It So Hard To Meditate?

Common Myths and Misconceptions

Common Challenges

How To Make Meditation Easier

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My Experience With Why It’s So Hard To Meditate

You know, when I first dipped my toes into the world of meditation, it felt like trying to hold onto water.

The more I tried to grab it, the faster it seemed to slip through my fingers.

I was so caught up in what I wanted to get out of meditation practice, almost like chasing the end of a rainbow, hoping to find a pot of gold.

But here’s the trick

The moment I stopped treating meditation as a means to an end and started just being in the moment, everything changed.

Meditation began to unfold in ways I couldn’t have imagined, deeper and more fulfilling than I had dared to hope.

  • Letting go: Once I stopped trying to control every aspect of my meditation, it started to flow naturally.

  • Consistency: Dropping my expectations led to a more consistent practice, sometimes even two or three times a day!

  • Excitement: Believe it or not, I started looking forward to meditating. It became a highlight of my day.

So, if you’re feeling stuck or frustrated with your meditation practice, maybe it’s time to take a step back.

Remember, it’s not about chasing an experience or trying to force something to happen.

It’s about letting go and allowing the journey to unfold in its own beautiful, unexpected way.

This shift in perspective changed everything for me and I hope this article helps out some of you who are in the same position that I once was.

This is from my blog about Meditations and Personal Development in general. Here are the 9 Personal Development Skills that changed my life.

Key Takeaways

  • Expectations affect your meditation experience
  • Meditation is a journey, not a quick fix
  • Connecting to the present moment is key
  • Observing, not reacting during meditation will help you connect to the present
  • Even short sessions can introduce benefits
  • Comfort over perfect posture is essential
  • Managing expectations helps with meditating regularly and making progress

why is it so hard to meditate FI

So, you’ve heard of this ancient practice and how beneficial meditation is…

But it’s just not clicking, right? You’re not alone. 

But the biggest hurdle for most of us isn’t what you might think. 

It’s not about your restlessness or the voices raging in your mind. 

It’s actually about what we expect from meditation in the first place.

I think if you’re meditating to fix something in your life or to experience something specific, you’re setting yourself up for a bit of a stumble. 

It’s like expecting a plant to bloom the day after you plant it. 

Meditation isn’t a quick fix or a way to an end

As corny as it sounds… it really is about the journey, not the destination.

Something about trying to rush to the destination makes us to want to control the experience.

And instead of getting there faster, it often ends up taking a while longer. If we get there at all.

Meditation involves connecting to the “now”, the present moment. 

Ok…? So how do you do that?

You start by letting go of your thoughts and, eventually, even the awareness of your body.

It’s totally normal for thoughts to pop up or to notice an itch. Instead of reacting, you just observe it and let it go.

By not reacting to your thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations, you realize you’re more than these things.

As you practice, the chatter and sensations become background noise. You find there’s something more constant – you and the present moment.

The deeper into this state you go, the more peace you find. Not because you were seeking it, but because you were simply being.

Now, many folks turn to meditation hoping it’ll be a magic pill for relaxation, patience, or even manifesting desires. 

But here’s the twist – when you stop thinking of meditation as a means to an end, but as the end in of itself, that’s when the real magic can start.

There’s a couple different reasons why I personally think this happens. I’ll elaborate more later in this article.

But for now, imagine meditation like a cozy, endless exploration of the present. 

The present is brimming with possibilities, and it’s not about chasing after something. It’s about getting out of the way and letting those things find their way to you

If you shift your perspective and see meditation as the treasure, not just the vehicle that will get you there, you’ll actually start to enjoy it.

Maybe even love it.

Maybe even crave it. 

Wouldn’t that be something?

And guess what?

This new awareness will actually allow you to notice changes in yourself and in your circumstances without you lifting a finger.

It just sort of appears.

Now…

With this framework in mind let’s talk about some other possible misconceptions and challenges that are making meditation harder for you.

Then we’ll talk about a few hacks you can use to not only get over them but also start viewing and experiencing meditation in a way that will make regular meditation practice inevitable. 

Do you hear that Mr. Anderson? That is the sound of inevitability. It is the sound of… change!

Common Myths and Misconceptions

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #1 – Meditation Requires a Completely Silent Mind

why meditation feels so hard #1 - meditation requires a completely silent mind

A lot of people have this idea that if you’re doing meditation right, your mind is like a still pond, no ripples, no waves – just calm. 

But let me tell you, that’s NOT how it works.

Even after you’ve been at it for years, thoughts will pop up. Distractions are part of the package.

I’ve been meditating for a long time now, and I still catch my mind wandering off.

It’s like one moment, I’m focused, and the next, I’m thinking about what I need to do later, like meeting a deadline or doing laundry.

We all have thousands of thoughts every day. It’s just how our brains work. Some we’re aware of, and others just sort of happen in the background. 

The key isn’t to stop these thoughts; that’s pretty much impossible. Instead, it’s all about how you handle them when they come up.

So, here’s a little trick I learned. 

When you notice your mind starting to drift, imagine putting all those thoughts into a balloon. Then, just let it go and watch it float away. It’s a simple visualization, but it works wonders.

Meditation isn’t about emptying your mind completely. It’s more about noticing your thoughts, acknowledging them, and then letting them pass without letting them take over. 

The more you practice, the easier it gets to catch those thoughts and let them go, both during meditation and in everyday life.

Think of it this way: when you can spot a thought, pack it into a balloon, and watch it float off as soon as it pops up, that’s when you’re really getting the hang of staying in the moment during meditation.

Remember, everyone has thoughts. It’s all about how you recognize and release them.

  • Realize that having thoughts during meditation is normal and okay.
  • Use different meditation techniques, like the balloon trick, to help let go of distractions.
  • Practice consistently to get better at recognizing and releasing thoughts.

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #2 – Meditation is only about stress relief

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #2 - Meditation is only about stress relief

Meditation is a real game-changer for stress relief for sure. But it’s important to not box in your expectations.

Your narrow expectation of what meditation is or should be could be what’s stopping you from experiencing everything you’re looking for – and more.

Yes, meditation is a powerhouse when it comes to relaxation, which naturally leads to less stress. 

I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve suddenly realized, hours later, that my shoulders were practically up to my ears with tension. 

Or that my mind was a whirlwind of thoughts until I took a moment to actively quiet it down. It was only then I noticed how chaotic my inner world was.

But there are other perks of meditation too, like feeling more at ease, having sharper focus, and becoming more self-aware. 

And getting to these different destinations can look and feel different for everyone.

What’s important is to keep an open mind about meditation and not box it into what we think it should be, or what the experience should look/feel like. 

Otherwise, we risk not only getting frustrated.

But not only that, we’re not able to stumble upon a new way of doing, a new way of being… maybe one that’s even better than what we had originally hoped for!

Having a goal or a vision of what you want from your meditation session is great. But getting too hung up on meeting that expectation can actually hold you back. 

Here’s a few reasons why:

  1. It puts unnecessary pressure on you, turning what should be a relaxing experience into a stressful one.
  2. It can make you feel like you’re failing at meditation if things don’t go exactly as planned, which isn’t the case at all.
  3. It stops you from experiencing unexpected benefits meditation offers because you’re too focused on one specific outcome.
  4. You can only control what you know and don’t leave room for the unknown to guide you into unknown states and experiences.

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #3 – Benefits Require Long Meditations For A Long Time

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #3 - Benefits Require Long Meditations For A Long Time

So, you’ve heard that meditation is like this super long journey, right? That you need to sit in silence for hours, maybe even years, to really get anything out of it? 

Well, I’m here to tell you, that’s not exactly how it works!

First off, let’s get something straight.

You don’t need to be this ultra-dedicated Buddhist monk, with a shaved head, dedicating one to three hours a day for years to meditation.

Nope, that’s a myth.

Even if you’re just starting out, giving meditation a try in any small way can open the door to some pretty cool benefits.

And yes, as with anything, the more you do it, the better you’ll get. It’s all about practice.

  • You’ll develop a more regular meditation practice
  • You’ll start enjoying it more
  • And before you know it, you’ll naturally want to do it for longer periods

But the trick is to just start. It doesn’t have to be a marathon session.

Even a short 5-minute meditation, or heck, a 30-second pause to breathe deeply can make a difference. 

The key is to start so that you can start linking these positive changes to your meditation practice because that’s when the magic happens. 

You’ll find yourself wanting to integrate meditation into your daily life, not because you have to, but because you genuinely want to.

In the beginning, don’t stress about how long your sessions are or how long you’ve been at it. Even beginners can tap into a sense of relaxation, self-awareness, and focus that might surprise you.

And as you keep at it, you’ll dive deeper into the experience every new session.

And as you link these deeper experiences back to meditation, that’s when you’ll be HOOKED.

So, keep reading. Later on in the article, I’ll be sharing some simple exercises and meditation styles that are perfect for beginners and advanced meditators alike!

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #4 – perfect posture is required for meditation

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #4 - perfect posture is required for meditation

Are you worried about your posture or what you’re supposed to do with your hands during meditation?

Honestly, if you’re just stepping into the world of meditation, I’d say don’t even sweat it. 

The key thing to remember, and I can’t stress this enough, is comfort. If that means lying on your back or slouching a bit, totally fine.

I’ve found that even when I start my meditation sitting up straight, as I dive deeper into relaxation, my posture naturally shifts. 

Instead of worrying about how I look or if I’m doing it “right,” I just let go and allow myself to sink into that peaceful state. 

For me, maintaining a specific posture isn’t a requirement for a successful meditation. It’s more of a strategy to keep from dozing off.

Seriously, the better you get at intentionally entering relaxation, it’s super easy to get so relaxed that you end up falling asleep.

So, using posture, hand positions, or even crossing your legs can introduce just enough discomfort to keep me awake.

It keeps me engaged in the meditation rather than snoozing away.

  • Comfort is key, and it’s okay to adjust until you find what works for you.
  • Letting go of the “right” way to meditate can deepen your experience.
  • Use posture and positioning as tools, not rules, to enhance your practice.

So, it’s not about following a set of instructions you’ve been handed. It’s about using these elements as tools, if and when you find them necessary.

If you’re just starting out, don’t even worry about it. Meditate on your back and fall asleep a few times if that’s what it’s going to take! 

Just relax and enjoy the journey inward.

Common Challenges

For the most part, what we think are challenges are often encouraging signs that not only is meditation working, but even more necessary!

I know that seems a bit contradictory but let me pick a few general topics and explain how I view it. 

If you can shift your perspective from:

‘This is why I can’t meditate’

To…

‘Oh, I guess I need meditation more than I thought!’ 

…in a non-judgmental way, you’ll be set.

Here’s how I interpret these common challenges.

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #5 – Physical or Mental Restlessness

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #5 - Physical or Mental Restlessness

So, you know that feeling when you sit down and everything inside you is just buzzing? Your legs can’t stay still, or your thoughts are racing a mile a minute? 

Honestly, I get a little thrill from that.

It’s like a signal, a heads-up from my body and mind that we’re starting our journey inward.

And the only reason it’s acting up is because it doesn’t like it.

But here’s the thing – that restlessness? I’m glad I’m feeling it.

I mean, can you imagine?

If I had continued my day without meditation, that jittery energy could have affected everything I did, pulling down the quality of my whole day!

But catching that restlessness early on, now that’s a relief. 

Restlessness isn’t something you have to beat yourself up for either.

When you experience it, it’s something you can acknowledge and then gently steer your focus back to your breath or mantra or whatever anchor you use in meditation.

Yeah, your body and mind might throw a tantrum, like a wild horse desperate to break free. They’ll try to convince you that you need to move, that there are a million things you should be thinking about instead. 

But here’s a secret – that’s actually an opportunity. 

An opportunity to prove to your mind and body that you’re the boss, the calm commander amidst the chaos.

Here are three things to keep in mind:

  1. Restlessness is a sign, not a setback.
  2. Acknowledging without judging is key.
  3. Every moment of restlessness is an opportunity to strengthen your command over your mind and body.

I can’t stress enough how different your day can look and feel once you’ve shown your body who’s in charge.

After taming that inner turmoil, the sense of peace and clarity you carry forward… it’s something else. 

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #6 – Physical or Mental Discomfort

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #6 - Physical or Mental Discomfort

Ever noticed how sometimes you suddenly become super aware of something going on in your body or maybe something that’s been bugging you in the back of your mind? 

It’s like out of nowhere, you’re tuned into this discomfort that you hadn’t really paid attention to before. 

Well, guess what? That’s actually a good thing! 

It shows that you’re starting to pay more attention to what’s happening inside you rather than just what’s going on around you. 

It might not feel great, but it’s a sign that you’re on the right path. You’re starting to go on your inward journey.

Here’s why:

1. Awareness is Key: When you start noticing these uncomfortable things, it means your awareness is expanding. You’re becoming more in tune with yourself.

2. It’s a Good Sign: Sure, it might not be the most pleasant feeling, but it’s actually a positive sign. It means there are things that have been bugging you deep down, and now you’re finally starting to acknowledge them.

3. You’re on the Right Track: Instead of seeing this as a distraction, see it as confirmation that you’re moving in the right direction. Your focus is shifting from the external world to your inner self.

Dealing with these discomforts can look different for everyone. But the key is not to see them as distractions. 

Instead, view them as signs that you’re heading where you need to go. You’re starting to explore your inner world, and that’s a journey worth taking. 

So, next time you feel that sudden awareness of discomfort, remember, it’s all part of the process. You’re doing just fine.

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #7 – Mental Barriers

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #7 - Mental Barriers

You know, beating yourself up over every little thing is a tough habit to break. 

If you’re the type of person who feels almost guilty for having a good day, I’m here to say you absolutely deserve those good vibes. 

Life can be better, truly. 

And things have a way of working out, even if it doesn’t always seem like it.

Let’s use the balloon exercise again.

Imagine all your worries and self-criticism as a dark cloud. Now picture turning that cloud into a balloon. Got it? Good. Now just… let it float away. 

You’re allowed to feel joy, peace, focus, and all the good stuff. Really, you are. We just need to learn to step aside and let ourselves have it.

  • The relief of letting go
  • The warmth of a good day
  • The calm of peace settling in
  • The clarity that comes with focus
  • The bliss of deep relaxation

It’s possible for you. We just need to keep moving, keep believing, and most importantly, keep allowing ourselves to experience the good.

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #8 – Emotional Surfacing

Ever find yourself struggling with meditation because it feels like you’re opening a can of emotional worms? Trust me, you’re not alone. 

It’s like all the stuff we’ve been pushing under the rug suddenly decides to throw a party in our heads. 

Now, there’s something that might help called analytical meditation. 

Sounds fancy, but it’s basically a way to deep dive into those tricky emotions. It asks you to really get into the nitty-gritty of what you’re feeling, why you’re feeling it, and how to look at it from a new angle that actually helps you out.

But hey, if you’re just dipping your toes into the meditation pool, there are meditation techniques that can help. 

You guessed it, It’s the balloon technique! 

Imagine taking all those wild emotions and thoughts, squishing them together, and stuffing them into an imaginary balloon. Got it? Now, let that balloon go and watch it float away into the sky. Bye-bye, worries!

  • The balloon floating away: This isn’t just about getting rid of what’s bothering you for a moment. It’s a symbol of release, a visual cue to your brain that these emotions don’t have to anchor you down.

  • The wild party of emotions: Think of it as acknowledging that yes, our minds can be messy. But there’s a way to turn down the volume and understand the guests.

Now, the goal isn’t to just keep floating balloons every time you meditate. Eventually, we want to be brave enough to face those emotions head-on, to understand their source. 

But starting with the balloon technique? It’s a solid way to remind yourself that you’re in control. That nothing, especially not your emotions, can stop you from living in the now. 

Not the past, not the future, but this moment, exactly as it is.

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #9 – Too Many Distractions

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #9 - Too Many Distractions

So, I’ve got this little ritual before I dive into my meditation sessions. 

Eye Mask – Check.

Noise Cancellation Headphones – Check.

The whole point of meditation is to shift our focus from the busy world around us to the quiet world within us.

That’s why we often close our eyes, to cut off our visual ties with the outside and make that journey inward a tad easier.

But here’s the thing, even with my eyes shut, light has this sneaky way of creeping in. Ever experienced that? It’s like these tiny beams of distraction.

That’s exactly why I opt for an eye mask. It’s like a little blackout curtain for my eyes – no light, no distractions.

And the noise-canceling headphones, oh, they’re a game changer! 

They do more than just block out sounds. Depending on the quality of your noise cancellation, sometimes that’s enough to instantly teleport you into a whole different world, especially if you’re using it with an eye mask! 

It’s like they say,

“Outside world, please hold, I’ll get back to you later.”

  • Eye Mask Magic: Acts like a mini blackout curtain, keeping those pesky beams of light at bay.
  • Silence Please: Noise-canceling headphones are the unsung heroes, dialing down the world’s volume.
  • Ready, Set, Go: Combine these two, and you’re not just ready; you’re in prime position to embark on that inward journey.

So, if you find a comfy spot and equip yourself with these two essentials, you’re all set.

Don’t let external distractions ever be the reason why you can’t go deep in your meditations again!

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #10 – Falling Asleep

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #10 - Falling Asleep

Falling asleep during meditation? 

Yeah, I’ve been there too. 

In fact, for the first few months, it felt like every time I tried to meditate, I’d just drift off. 

At first, I wondered if I was doing something wrong. 

But here’s the thing—falling asleep isn’t necessarily bad. If what you’re after is deep relaxation, and you find yourself snoozing, then you’ve hit your goal, right?

But if you’re aiming for more from your meditation sessions, you’ll eventually want to learn how to stay awake. 

I realized my own struggle with this was because I simply wasn’t getting enough rest.

When you meditate, your body will prioritize what it needs most. And if it’s craving sleep, it’s going to take the opportunity to catch up on that, especially if you’re only clocking in four hours a night.

That was me. I used to think I could function like a superhero on minimal sleep. Spoiler alert: I couldn’t.

So, I made a change. Here’s what I did:

  1. Acknowledged the issue: Realizing that sleep was what I needed most.
  2. Adjusted my expectations: Accepting that sleeping more was not a sign of weakness.
  3. Changed my habits: I started getting a solid 8 hours of sleep. Sometimes even 10 hours!

Once I made these changes, staying awake during meditation became so much easier.

It helped me do some deep work during my meditations all while staying deeply relaxed and focused…without falling asleep! 

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #11 – Expectation vs Reality

Why Meditation Feels So Hard #11 - Expectation vs Reality

Sometimes, just one moment of meditation can flip your world upside down.

Imagine having this mind-blowing, transcendental meditation experience that reshapes everything you thought you knew.

Sounds incredible, right? 

But here’s the thing, it’s super important not to treat meditation like a box you’re trying to check off.

If we start seeing it as just a goal or a specific state we need to reach, not only are we kind of missing the point, we’ll likely never get there.

From what I’ve learned, the more you chase after a certain experience or try to force yourself into a specific state of mind, the tougher it gets. 

Why, you might ask? 

Well, it seems like we all have these ideas of what meditation is supposed to be like.

We think it should look a certain way, feel a certain way, and when it doesn’t, we get frustrated.

It’s like we’re trying to fit this vast, beautiful thing into a tiny, familiar box.

Here’s the deal:

  1. Letting go of those expectations allows us to actually experience meditation in its true form.
  2. Trying to control it just because we’re looking for something familiar only limits us.
  3. Keeping an open mind and heart invites in the unknown, which is where the real magic of meditation lies.

When we have all these preconceived notions, we end up trying to control the experience. Everything has to fit into what we already know and are comfortable with. 

But let me ask you this:

How can we discover something new if we’re only open to what we already know?

To truly experience something that is still unknown to us, it seems we’ve got to embrace a bit of mystery in how we approach meditation. 

Whether it’s about the way we meditate, how long we’ve been practicing, or how soon we want to see changes, it’s crucial to keep an open mind.

Think of it this way:

  • Aim for a crystal clear and specific goal in your meditation journey, BUT don’t get too hung up on the specifics of how to get there.
  • Stay flexible and let your experiences shape your practice, rather than trying to mold your experiences to fit a rigid idea.
  • Embrace the unknown and let it guide you to new insights and states of being.

Doesn’t that sound like a more freeing way to approach meditation? 

By letting go of our need for control and embracing the journey for what it is, we open ourselves up to truly transformative experiences.

Practical Solutions to Overcome Meditation Challenges

I made a list of actionable tips you can use to make part of your every day experience.

After being aware of these tips, it’s important to choose the right meditation that’s appropriate for your level which I’ll go into in the next section.

So let’s get into it!

How to make meditation easier #1 – Keep your meditations short

Keep your meditations short. 

And when I say short, I’m talking tiny. 

Like, 30 seconds tiny.

5 minutes max. 

There are even these 1-minute guided meditations if you’re really pressed for time. Just remember, the shorter, the better.

Now, you might be wondering, why is this so important?

Well, let me break it down:

  1. Time is a beast we’re always battling, right? Keeping it short makes it less of a fight.
  2. It’s all about giving meditation a fair shot. If it’s short, you’re more likely to do it. Simple.
  3. Lastly, starting small can lead to big changes. Whether it’s an experience or a feeling, once you get a taste, it’ll make the next short meditation that much easier to jump into.

The thing is, many of us never really give meditation a chance. It’s like, “Who has the time?” or “It’s too much effort.” 

But, by keeping it short, you’re throwing all those excuses out the window.

You’re making it easy for yourself to at least give it a go. 

And once you give it a go, I promise, chances are that you’ll see what all the hype is about and give it another shot, and another shot…

Experience this loop for long enough and it just might turn into a pattern… or even a habit!

So, why not try it? What have you got to lose? A few minutes, that’s what. But who knows? Those few minutes might just be the best part of your day.

(Spoiler: I have a few 30 second exercises coming up soon)

How to make meditation easier #2 – Link Meditation with a time and place you’re in every day

Now this is more about habit formation but it definitely applies here.

The trick is to tie the habit you want to create – in this case, meditation – to an existing routine.

Let’s dive into how you can seamlessly incorporate meditation into your daily life. 

1. Morning Routine: Do you have a morning ritual? Maybe it’s grabbing a glass of water first thing or brushing your teeth. Why not follow that with that quick 5 minute meditation we were talking about? It’s a gentle way to ease into the day.

2. Commute: Or, think about your commute. If you drive to work and have a moment in the parking lot before stepping out, that’s your cue. Sit back, close your eyes (only if it’s safe, of course), and meditate. For those on public transport, the moment you find your seat can be your golden time.

3. Evening Wind-down: And for night owls, right after your evening shower could be the perfect time to unwind further with some meditation.

The idea is to pinpoint a recurring time and activity in your day and just add meditation to it. 

Once you start doing it and feeling the difference it makes, you’ll naturally look for more moments to sneak in a quick session. 

Remember, it’s about giving yourself that chance to experience the calm and clarity meditation brings. And trust me, once you get a taste of the benefits, you’ll want to make more room for it in your life. 

So, what’s the trigger you’re going to tie your 5 minute meditation to?

How to make meditation easier #3 – Keep the goal of your meditation vague and general

So, I’ve touched on this a bit before, but let me break it down in a super simple way. 

You know how we all have those moments where we’re like, “I wanna get something specific out of meditation”? 

It could be anything from wanting a bit of calm in our lives, a sharper focus, or heck, even trying to bring in some big life changes like a soulmate or that job promotion we’ve been eyeing.

Here’s the kicker though:

  • Think about your meditation goal, and get super clear on it, BUT! Don’t hold on too tight.
  • Remember, it’s all about the journey, not just the destination.
  • Keep a light touch on your general direction; obsessing over the specific steps won’t help.
  • Stay open to the surprises along the way; they’re part of the fun.
  • Notice the small changes, inside and out, they’re clues you’re on the right track.

We’ve got to be clear on what we want, sure, but not so glued to it that we can’t enjoy the ride or see where it takes us. 

Think of it like setting a GPS destination but being cool with taking some unexpected scenic routes. 

You’ve got an idea of where you want to end up, but you’re also open to discovering some cool spots along the way.

Now, if you’re just looking to chill out, you can definitely experience deep relaxation in one session. 

But if you’re aiming for a deeper, more permanent change, that always-chilled, abundant-life vibe…

It’s more of a keep-it-in-mind-and-let-it-marinate kind of deal. 

It’s like planting a seed and not digging it up every five minutes to see if it’s grown yet. Just water it, give it some sun, and let it do its thing.

So, keep your eyes on the prize, but also enjoy the surprises.

This is what people mean when they say “Meditation is more about the journey than the destination”.

Because yes, the places Meditation takes you might just be cooler than what you had in mind.

But also remember: you can’t will yourself to an experience or state you’re not familiar with (yet!)

How to make meditation easier #4 – after your meditation, associate the positive feelings with meditation

It’s all about tying those good vibes you feel afterward right back to the act of meditating itself. 

Before you know it, you’ll be itching to meditate, not because you “have to,” but because you genuinely want to. 

Think of it like your pet doggo that’s wagging its tail or your kitty boi or gal bumping up to you for some pets in the middle of your workday. 

You’re aware that spending a moment with them will be nothing but joy. You just really have to send off that email or finish that task you were in the middle of.

And the whole time? Yes you’re still taking care of business, but you’re also really looking forward to that time with your furry baby.

It’s pretty much the same with meditation. Except instead of looking forward to spending time with your pet, you’re looking forward to spending time with yourself. 

  • Acknowledge the Joy: Post-meditation, really soak in that feel-good energy. It’s your reward.
  • Make a Mental Note: Connect those positive vibes directly to your meditation practice.
  • Seek the Signs: Notice when you’re craving that meditation time. It might surprise you.
  • Prioritize You: Understand it’s okay to pause and do something beneficial for yourself. Your to-do list can wait.
  • Embrace the Breaks: Like quick cuddles with your pet, these meditation moments are precious. Cherish them.

The key here is to not see meditation as another chore or something you squeeze into your day out of obligation. 

Instead, it’s about looking forward to that quiet time with yourself, much like you do with those spontaneous breaks with your furry friend. 

It’s a gentle nudge to remind you: this is not just another item on your checklist; it’s a form of self-respect and love.

And the way you do that is by tying back your positive experience with meditation. Every single time.

How to make meditation easier #5 – manage your expectations

Have you heard of the saying, ‘Rome wasn’t built in a day’?

WHAT A RELIEF! Right?

I mean, could you imagine living up to that?

Now, think about your meditation practice. 

  1. Would you prefer it to be this intense, all-out effort that fizzles out faster than a candle in the wind? 
  2. Or, would you rather take a more gentle, step-by-step approach, laying down a solid foundation that becomes a cornerstone in your life, helping you tackle real challenges with practical solutions? 

Yeah, I’ll have the #2 please.

But let’s be clear, it’s going to take some time.

There are things in life we get the hang of instantly, like learning not to touch a hot stove after the first painful encounter. 

Then, there are those skills and habits that require repetition, patience, and time to truly embed in our lives. 

Not everyone grew up playing the piano and not everyone grew up meditating. So if you want to learn a new skill, it’s going to take time but how much time it takes is completely up to you.

Following the other tips mentioned on this list will help you not only get that ‘quick fix’ but also result in meditation being a consistent practice in your life.

  1. Build a strong foundation.
  2. Be patient and kind to yourself.
  3. Integrate meditation into your daily routine gradually.

Related: Meditation Hacks

3 Recommendations: Choosing the Right Meditation Technique for You

Recommendation #1 – 30 Second Exercises for Beginners

I love these because for 30 seconds of your time, you can experience 80% of the benefit.

At this point, they’ve become second nature, and trust me, they can become a part of your routine too! 

These next 3 exercises are:

1. Incredibly time-efficient.

2. The benefits are almost immediate.

3. They’re easy enough to turn into habits.

4. They can significantly improve your overall well-being.

I promise, once you start, you’ll wonder how you ever did without them. 

Instant Physical Relaxation – The 4-7-8 method

Make sure you’re sitting down comfortably first. 

We’re going to take a journey with our breath, and it’s easier than you might think.

Here’s what you’ll do:

  1. Start by taking a deep, slow breath in through your nose. Let this breath fill you up for about 4 seconds. Feel the air moving through you, cool and refreshing.
  2. Now, hold that breath. Let it sit with you for 7 seconds. It’s like you’re holding onto a little moment of peace, right there in your chest.
  3. Finally, let it all go. Exhale slowly through your mouth for 8 seconds. Imagine any tension you’re holding onto just melting away with the breath. Picture it leaving your body, disappearing into the air.
  4. Repeat this process three to five times. With each exhale, envision yourself releasing more and more tension. It’s like you’re letting go of anything heavy that’s been sitting on your shoulders, letting it slide right off from the top of your head down to your toes.

Give it a try and see how you feel. I’ll wait.

Still waiting!

Now, isn’t it amazing how something as simple as breathing can feel so restorative? 

Remember, this is just a moment between you and your breath, a little pause in the day to reset and relax.

This 30 second hack is now yours to use whenever, wherever!

Instant Mental Relaxation – The Mental Vacation Method

This one works best when you’re lying down or leaning back on your chair, and especially if you’re physically relaxed. It pairs well with the physical relaxation method I just mentioned.

Now, picture this: your own slice of paradise, the ultimate relaxation. Really dive into those details and crank up the vividness until you’re practically there, soaking it all in on your mental getaway.

  • What’s your location?
  • What fills your view?
  • What sounds are floating around you?
  • How does it feel to be there?
  • Is the air warm, or is there a cool breeze?
  • What time of year is it, and how’s the weather treating you?

Once you’ve got that blissful scene in mind, hang out there as long as you’d like. You might just find that even half a minute can make a world of difference.

Often when I’m doing this, I can literally feel the tension in my brain getting released.

It sort of feels like my brain is getting flushed out with some feel good chemicals.

The more you practice, the more you’ll be able to recognize the sensation that’s particular to you.

Another 30 second hack! It’s yours, try it out before reading further!

Instant Concsciousness Ascension

  1. Close your eyes for a moment. 
  2. Just take a minute to really feel everything from the top of your head, right down to your fingertips, and all the way to your toes. 
  3. With your eyes still gently closed, picture the walls of the room you’re in. Can you see them in your mind? 
  4. Now, think about the space that’s between your body and these walls.

Focusing on the empty space is a hack to show you that your consciousness isn’t just trapped inside your body.

  • Have you ever felt a sudden wave of happiness for no reason?
  • Noticed your brain lighting up like a Christmas tree, feeling all warm and fuzzy?
  • Or maybe there’s this sense of peace that just washes over you?
  • And you find yourself thinking, “Wow, this feels amazing”?

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then you’re on the right track. It’s totally normal and means you’re doing everything perfectly. Just let yourself go with the flow.

Ascending your consciousness means going beyond your physical senses. It’s what happens during deep meditation. This one’s great for increasing intuition, focus, and self awareness throughout the day.

So, give it a shot.

And if any of these felt good, consider making a bit more time for some of the meditations below.

recommendation #2 – If you have 5 minutes+ for Beginners

If you’re just starting out with meditation and have a bit more than five minutes to spare, I’ve got a golden tip for you. 

Ever tried guided meditations? They’re a game-changer. 

Imagine having someone walk you through the steps, pointing out things you might not notice on your own. It’s like having a personal meditation coach.

I personally still lean on guided sessions a few times a week. They help keep me on track. Trust me, even though I’ve been at this for a while, those guided voices are still part of my routine.

Here’s a little trick I use.

Head over to YouTube and type in “5 Minute Guided Meditation for X” – with X being whatever you’re in the mood for. Could be relaxation, focus, or even looking for a bit of happiness. You’ll be surprised at the variety available:

– 5 minute guided meditation for relaxation

– 5 minute guided meditation for happiness

– 5 minute guided meditation for sleep

– Etc.

The choices are endless. And hey, the more you meditate, the more you’ll get the hang of it. Eventually, you might find yourself flowing through sessions on your own. 

But there’s no rush. I still find immense value in guided meditations. They’re an excellent tool for maintaining focus.

So, why not give it a shot? Who knows, you might just find your meditation groove.

recommendation #3 – Exploring different forms of meditation for more experienced meditators

If you’re an intermediate or even an advanced meditator I think there comes a point where experiencing or practicing other forms of meditation become extremely beneficial for your meditation journey. 

You don’t have to commit to any one method forever, but just knowing there are options to match your mood or life’s twists and turns is pretty empowering.

Now, I’m not saying I’ve found every type of meditation under the sun, but I’ve got a few favorites you might want to check out. Trust me, they could add some serious depth to your journey.

1. Alpha Meditations – Chances are, you’ve stumbled upon this one. It’s your typical relaxation, mindfulness meditation. All about chilling out and being present. But in this article I share a bit of the science magic behind it. Knowing what’s happening in your brain makes it even easier to hit that relax button whenever you need.

2. Theta Meditations – Ready to level up? Theta meditations dive deeper than alpha, inviting your subconscious to the party. If you’re curious about what’s bubbling beneath your conscious mind, this is your go-to.

3. Analytical Meditations – Ever been told thinking too much during meditation is a no-go? Well, analytical meditation flips that on its head. It’s all about diving deep into your thoughts, understanding them, and even finding ways to reshape your life. If you’re a thinker, you’ll love this.

4. Somatic Meditations – This one’s a bit different. Instead of starting in your head, you begin with your body. Feel a sensation, and then trace it back to your thoughts. It’s a unique approach that could change the way you see meditation.

5. Quantum Jumping Meditations – Ever dabbled in manifestation or wondered how to start? Quantum jumping takes manifestation meditations to a whole new level. I’ll share some personal stories to help you see how it works and how you can make those dreams a reality.

Diving into these styles doesn’t just add variety; it deepens your understanding of what meditation can be. 

Whether you’re looking to relax, explore your subconscious, engage in deep thought, connect with your body, or manifest your dreams, there’s a meditation style out there for you. 

Why not give one (or all) a try?

Conclusion

Meditation doesn’t always feel like a walk in the park… at least not in the beginning.

It takes some of us longer than others to realize that less really is more.

But here’s the thing – it’s these very challenges that make meditation so worth it. 

It’s not about silencing your mind or finding a one-size-fits-all solution to stress. 

It’s about the journey. 

Embracing the restlessness, the discomfort, and the distractions, and learning to sail through them with grace and patience.

The real beauty of meditation? 

It’s in the journey itself. It’s a path of self-discovery, being present, and finding peace amid the chaos. 

We’ve busted some common myths, talked about keeping our expectations in check, and shared tips to make meditation a breeze. 

Whether it’s quick sessions or weaving meditation into your daily life, the aim is to find what clicks for you.

Every session, no matter how tough, is a step forward.

Meditation is an endless exploration of the present, a treasure within itself. 

As you continue on this journey, remember to let go of the notion of meditation as a means to an end. Instead, see it as the end – a state of being where every moment is an opportunity for growth and transformation to come find you.

Let the practice be your guide to a deeper understanding of yourself and the world around you.

And don’t forget, the magic happens when you stop hunting for specific outcomes and start soaking up the present. 

Carry the lessons learned, the practices that resonate, and an open heart into whatever comes next in your meditation journey.

Change is everywhere – in our breath, the silence, and the peace we create. 

Meditation is your key to unlocking these experiences. Embrace it, treasure it, and let it reshape you in unimaginable ways.

Meditation is more than a practice; it’s a lifestyle. 

Let it guide you to a place of peace, understanding, and joy that fills your life. 

The road might be tough, but the rewards? They’re endless. 

Welcome to the beautiful, transformative world of meditation.

1. Meditation is about the journey, not the destination.

2. Every challenge is a step forward.

3. The magic unfolds when you live in the moment.

4. It’s a lifestyle that leads to peace, understanding, and joy.

Keep these points in mind as you continue your meditation journey. 

It’s not about getting somewhere; it’s about every moment of the journey.

If you have any questions, send me a DM on X/Twitter and I’ll try to give you my best answer.